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Forgive / Surviving a parents suicide

My father came to the U.S. in January of 1967, landing on a Friday & starting work the following Monday. Born in Argentina to parents that came from Austria looking to find work in the early 30’s. My father was disciplined man, also very strict & frugal. For most of his life he worked as a “machinist” in the Los Angeles area, and married my mother in the late sixties. My parents divorced in the early 80’s, and I spent several years in a foster home, with my mother ultimately getting full custody. After age 14, I didn’t see or speak with my father for over 30 years. The Friday before Christmas 2014, he walked back into my life, showing up at the shop I co-owned & ran with my sister. Over the past years, I had sent him cards that his wife had intercepted, but he did manage to get one with the return address. Later I found out that my father had made a decision to find me that year, 2014. He had sold his duplex in Venice Beach, was retired, and had been livi...

Love- Be Your Own Super Hero

First thing to becoming your own “Superhero” is realizing that it’s all you, and that no one is coming to save you! You can learn to take positive actions that make you feel powerful, and those can lead to good things happening in every part of your life. How do we start? First, by adopting a “Super-hero” mind-set, and starting to take actions that empower you to make positive changes in your life. Believing that you can is powerful, and that starts with a small steps that can become everyday habits. 1) Have self-awareness: Learn about yourself in order to understand your strengths, weaknesses, goals, and values. Self -awareness is your beginning of personal growth & empowerment. What’s your super-power? 2) Define your goals: Take a look at your life, and make clear decisions about where you want to go, and what you want to do with it. Make a list of career, relationship, health, or personal development goals, and begin to take steps to achieve them. Prioritize...

Love/ Acknowledge, Accept, & Express your Feelings

Our feelings are primarily there to guide us, and learning to acknowledge, accept, and express them can be truly beneficial for everyone. When we Acknowledge that we are having “feelings”, it’s good, showing us that we are aware of them. Feelings are neither good or bad, they are simply part of who we are. Sometimes feelings can be very helpful, by showing us what’s important, and what makes us happy, sad, or angry. If we can Accept our feelings, feel them, sit with them, we can gain more understanding from them. We may have little power over feelings when they arise, but we can choose what to do about them. This is our responsibility & decision. Imagine our feelings as “visitors”, that come to stay with us for a little while, revealing things we may need to know. This is natural & can be helpful, it’s when the feelings decide they want to “stay in our system” for awhile, that can be harmful. It’s up to us to accept & acknowledge them, then let them go. This m...